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====== Effective Resolution ====== | ====== Effective Resolution ====== | ||
- | <WRAP center round important 60%> | + | If there is a disagreement with someone over a specific fact or incident, there is not always a clear-cut answer and the other person may not always play by the rules. |
- | This article | + | |
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- | {{:guide: | + | {{stararmy:2018_two_warrant_officers_talking_over_tea_by_angrygrizley.png?300|Resolving conflicts peacefully}} |
- | //No matter what other people do, remember that you're in charge of you.// | + | |
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- | If there is a disagreement with someone over a specific fact or incident, there is not always a clear-cut answer and the other person may not always play by the rules. | + | |
===== Avoid Presumptions ===== | ===== Avoid Presumptions ===== | ||
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It is important, when opening or continuing dialogue, to maintain the resolve to keep it in the area of discussion and now allow one's self to enter the realm of argument or disruption. | It is important, when opening or continuing dialogue, to maintain the resolve to keep it in the area of discussion and now allow one's self to enter the realm of argument or disruption. | ||
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+ | //No matter what other people do, remember that you're in charge of you.// | ||
==== Choose an Appropriate Venue ==== | ==== Choose an Appropriate Venue ==== | ||
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===== Behaviors to Avoid ===== | ===== Behaviors to Avoid ===== | ||
- | In the course of discussion there are a number of behaviors to avoid. | + | In the course of discussion, there are a number of behaviors to avoid. |
==== Trolling ==== | ==== Trolling ==== | ||
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An example of this was the earlier reference to autohitting, | An example of this was the earlier reference to autohitting, | ||
- | If you catch yourself doing this; you should stop and clarify your specific reference and feelings rather than let the overgeneralization continue. Apologize if appropriate. | + | If you catch yourself doing this; please |
==== Sarcasm ==== | ==== Sarcasm ==== | ||
- | Sarcasm has virtually no value whatsoever in such discussions and tends to be an intentional attempt to mock or demean. | + | Sarcasm has virtually no value whatsoever in such discussions and tends to be an intentional attempt to mock or demean. |
==== Passive-Aggressive Comments ==== | ==== Passive-Aggressive Comments ==== | ||
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Passive-Aggressive actions are somewhat related to sarcasm in that the person speaking does not truly mean what they are saying, and it can often be paired with sarcastic statements. | Passive-Aggressive actions are somewhat related to sarcasm in that the person speaking does not truly mean what they are saying, and it can often be paired with sarcastic statements. | ||
- | This is by no means healthy and is harmful to the discussion, but also points to an underlying perfection on the part of the user that their opinion does not matter regardless of potential correctness or that their point is undervalued. | + | This is by no means healthy and is harmful to the discussion, but also points to an underlying perfection on the part of the user that their opinion does not matter regardless of potential correctness or that their point is undervalued. |
==== Shifting Topics ==== | ==== Shifting Topics ==== | ||
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Sometimes, when a person feels they are losing an argument, they will attempt to divert topics intentionally to throw the other person off-base or onto something more advantageous. | Sometimes, when a person feels they are losing an argument, they will attempt to divert topics intentionally to throw the other person off-base or onto something more advantageous. | ||
- | This method and intent is to be avoided. | + | This method and intent is to be avoided. |
==== Reductio ad absurdum ==== | ==== Reductio ad absurdum ==== | ||
- | This is the introduction of an intentional logical fallacy to try and make the other person look ridiculous. | + | This is the introduction of an intentional logical fallacy to try and make the other person look ridiculous. |
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- | Someone employing it is likely unwilling to continue a reasonable discussion. Please avoid this one, as it is one of the dirtiest tricks in the book. If you find yourself using it, apologize and shelve the discussion for the moment, as you are clearly not fit to continue it at this time. | + | |
===== Walk Away ===== | ===== Walk Away ===== | ||
There are times when no amount of discussion or mediation will resolve something. | There are times when no amount of discussion or mediation will resolve something. | ||
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+ | ===== Taking a Break ===== | ||
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+ | There are times when we just feel like we hit a wall everywhere we turn or simply do not accomplish much. Where we feel like we're always fighting or seeing others fight. | ||
===== Conceding ===== | ===== Conceding ===== |